By now you've all probably heard or seen the news that we're having identical twins early next year. Yes, we are extremely happy, no, we don't know what they are yet, and really, we have no preference. Healthy and happy is all we require.
It all started around the beginning of June. Things really didn't feel, well, right. It all began with an overwhelming desire to throw up every 5 minutes and a developing phobia of all things lemon scented. (Seriously, I had to change the toilet cleaner and the dishwashing liquid due to their ability to make me toss my cookies.). So we did what anyone would do … and pee'd on a stick. 5 minutes and 2 pink lines later … Hooray! Positive! We're having a baby.
Things really didn't improve from there. My ability to projectile vomit improved, as well as being able to balance an icecream bucket on my knees on the loo. Food became a distant memory as I barely held onto water and rice cakes. I struggled through my Dutch classes, trying desperately to stay awake and coherant to make the hour long trip by bus to Amsterdam. I decided that by this stage (and by Dutch standards) I should mosey on down to the midwives at the local health centre for advice on what to do next. By this stage, I was convinced I was going to pass out in the street and be swept up by the overzealous street sweepers.
I met the midwives at 7 weeks pregnant, and was immediately whisked up to the hospital for an ultrasound. I tried to call Marius, but he was in a meeting and so the poor man had about 4 missed calls and a half dozen desperate "CALL ME ASAP" sms messages on his phone. He didn't get the message till after, but I was able to give him the news that our little parasite (at this stage, singular parasite – the other was tucked away behind their sibling in a bizarre game of uterine hide and seek) had a heartbeat and everything looked fine. I was then booked in for a 10 week dating scan and another session with the midwives.
I should have had my suspicions up at the 10 week appointment with the midwife. She had a poke and a prod, and measured me, and established 'Well, you're *around* 10 weeks." Looking back – I should have probably sussed that *around* is ambiguous. "Around 10 weeks" means anywhere from 9 weeks to "Whoa. You've got 2 in there!" To top it off, my paranoia was kicking in – having had one miscarriage your sensitivity is high, and my interpretation was 'OMG. Doom and Gloom. It's non viable.'
Luckily I had only a few days to wait till the dating scan. I spent these days miserable, food deprived, nauseous and dwelling on the whole meaning of "Around 10 weeks". By the time the appointment rolled around, I was convinced they would tell me it was a non-viable pregnancy and I would have the whole trauma of loss again. This was to the point where poor Marius ran 10 minutes late to the time we said we would meet at the hospital – and I sobbed on him, then refused to speak to him for the remainder of the wait time. In the mean time, I was pretty much hysterical – and then we got called into the room.
Anyone who tells you that early pregnancy ultrasounds are great is lying. My experience was 'Go behind this curtain, take off your pants and then parade your bare bum across the room to the chair where you put your feet on the steps and spread 'em.' The chosen device of torture is a long, thin wand with a condom like device over it, lubricated with that ice cold gel they use. (Seriously, would it take much to warm that stuff????). It is then inserted into places usually only used for fun … and a grainy image of the baby comes on the screen. The technician probed and prodded for a few minutes (at this stage, I'm convinced that something is wrong!) when she said:
"So, they told you you're having a baby?"
(Me – a look of horror, Marius – somewhat amused). "Yes, that's right."
"Ok, here it is. And here is the other."
"OH MY F***ING GOD ARE YOU S****ING ME?" (sits upright and incurs a magic seeing eye dildo wand internal injury)
(Marius loses it at this stage and laughs at me)
"No, mevrouw, I'm not joking"
I then lost the ability to say any word other than "Twins". Incoherently, I muttered the word over and over whilst the technician explained the change in procedure from that point on. As they established that there was a 95% chance they were identical at that stage, I was suddenly deemed 'High Risk' and was placed under the care of a gynecologist at the hospital. I was placed under the care of one of the resident twins specialists (forever referred to as 'Dr Hottie' due to his rather pleasant looks). At this stage, I still lacked the ability to say anything sensible – Marius was leading me around practically holding me up – when the techician asked me if I needed anything, maybe a drink? I replied that I was sure I wasn't allowed a vodka valium cocktail … and got a strange look.
The next part was keeping it quiet for a few weeks. We decided that we would not tell the world until Marius came back from a scheduled work trip to Asia – and it was getting hard to keep telling people I was 'sick' and that the doctor was looking into it. My ability to eat still was compromised, however as the doctor explained, this was going to cause no harm to the babies as they were parasites, and would take from me what they wanted. (A lifelong habit already started?) 9 kilos of weightloss later, and after making sure family and close friends knew, we announced the news to the rest of the world.
As we now look down the barrel of 16 weeks, the news has slowly kicked in. We're now in the process of doing the renovations we have procrastinated about for 10 months, declaring to the world that these are going to be Primark and Ikea kids … because there's 2 of them, we halved the budget between them, and moaning about the cost of anything to do with twins. I've signed up for as many free things as I can (in true Dutch fashion!) and bemoaned the fact the free baby catalogues only come with one pair of free socks. There should be a box you can tick on the online forms that says 'Yes, I'm having 2/3/4 etc."
Another update soon …